Like a Love Song: Selena Gomez's Complete Dating History


| LAST UPDATE 06/25/2023

By Petra Grover

Selena Gomez has dated some of Hollywood's most eligible bachelors, from Disney star Nick Jonas to her on-again-off-again relationship with Justin Bieber. Here's a look at her complete dating history.

All About Selena

Selena Gomez can do everything from starting her career as a child actress on Barney & Friends to dominating the Billboard charts with her hit songs. So, how is she possibly still single?! We are #confused.

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While we may never know the answer to that question, we can take a look back at Gomez's past flings, flirts, and loves. So keep scrolling for an in-depth look at the Only Murders in the Building actress's entire dating history. If you are ready, you can come and get it!

Disney Channel Stars

Get your wands ready for this wizard. Back when Gomez was a teenager, she rose to fame as Alex Russo on Wizards of Waverly Place. The Disney Channel show made Gomez an overnight sensation. She earned "teen idol" status and quickly became a star. She wasn't the only one, either.

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At the same time, another prominent Disney Channel star was rising to fame alongside his brothers. Nick Jonas was a member of the Jonas Brothers band and was every girl's crush at the time. Naturally, the two Disney stars were connected, and soon their friendship turned into something more.

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Rumors Swirling

Rumors first ignited in 2008 when Gomez was seen wearing Nick's T-shirt while skateboarding. They were also seen hanging out at the Disney Channel Games. Gomez and Jonas continued to add fuel to the fire when the actress appeared in the music video for the JoBros hit Burnin' Up.

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While reps for the Jonas Brothers insisted that Gomez and Jonas were "just friends," a source confirmed to PEOPLE that the two Disney Channel stars had been "dating for months." GASP! Apparently, the song wasn't the only thing burning up. This young love was heating up, too.

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The couple was spotted together over the next couple of months. They attended basketball games and concerts. Then, shockingly, the couple split up in 2009. However, their time apart didn't last long. Rumors of a rekindling began circulating in early 2010.

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They tried to keep things private, but being two of the biggest teenage celebs made that hard for the couple. Their love wasn't destined to be. Eventually, the couple officially called it quits on their romantic relationship but remained friends afterward.

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The Best Part

Sometimes there are unexpected ways that people come into your life, and Selena certainly experienced this during her relationship with Nick. While she was dating heartthrob Nick, singer Taylor Swift was dating his older brother, Joe. The two girls hit it off and began instant friends.

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Gomez told KISS FM UK that her friendship with Swift "…was the best thing we got out of those relationships." Since meeting while dating the JoBros, the two have been an inseparable force. Gomez supported and attended her bestie's concert for her Eras tour. That's the true definition of BFF.

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Puppy Love

Years after they ended things, Gomez was asked about her relationship with Nick. She only had nice things to say about her ex-boyfriend. She gushed to Capital FM, "We were babies! We actually caught up the other day, and it's really fun to be able to do that."

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Gomez continued, "That, to me, was like puppy love. It was very sweet. He's lovely. I do have a love for him for sure." That makes our hearts absolutely melt! While the Disney Channel stars didn't get their fairytale ending, Gomez fell for another teen star.

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A Twilight Affair

Are you Team Edward or Team Jacob? That was the only question people asked back in 2009. We bet that we know what team Selena Gomez was on. During her brief split from Nick Jonas, Gomez was filming in Canada. Who else happened to be there working? Taylor Lautner, who famously portrayed Jacob Black in the Twilight Saga.

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After bumping into each other several times, the two started hanging out. They were even spotted at a movie theater, where an observer told PEOPLE, "They were cuddling throughout the movie... [They were] definitely acting like they were boyfriend and girlfriend."

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"A Little Crazy"

Gomez explained the whole situation to Seventeen, "Kristen [Stewart] was staying in my hotel. He would visit her, so we were constantly running into each other in the lobby - and we ended up meeting." Talk about a meet-cute. Where's Nora Ephron when you need her?

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Gomez continued, "We would go out to lunch and dinner, but I knew he had paparazzi following him and I had paparazzi following me. So we literally just wanted to hang out, go bowling and stuff, and it went a little too far, I think. People were getting a little crazy about us."

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It Wasn't Meant To Be

Once they returned to their everyday lives in Los Angeles, the romance between Gomez and Lautner dwindled out. Things weren't meant to be between these teen stars. Shortly afterward, Gomez got back together with Nick Jonas, and Lautner started dating Gomez's BFF, Taylor Swift.

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However, Selena became single again when she and Jonas officially called things off. But she wouldn't stay that way for very long. She was about to catch a major fever, just like everybody else in the world was at that time, and no doctor couldn't cure this.

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Bieber Fever

In the 2000s, every teenage girl had a case of Bieber Fever. Music executive Scooter Braun discovered Justin Bieber when he accidentally clicked on one of his YouTube videos. With his swishy hair and record-breaking singles, Bieber became a singing sensation.

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Bieber and Gomez were first introduced in early 2009 when Scooter Braun contacted Gomez's mother. The duo quickly struck up a friendship. It made sense that these two young stars at the top of their game would have much in common. But it would take some time before things became romantic.

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"One of My Good Friends"

Gomez told MTV News about her friendship with Justin, "I feel like a big sister now, 'cause I want to protect him. So I'm always very cautious with him, but he is so talented and he's so sweet, so that just started us wanting to work together. Now he's just become one of my good friends."

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While Gomez called Bieber one of her good friends, the Canadian singer took a different approach. Bieber called Gomez his celebrity crush and serenaded her on Dick Clark's New Year's Rockin' Eve. However, cupid's arrow hit the two friends, and things became romantic.

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Red Carpet Debut

Selena and Justin made their official red carpet debut as a couple at the Vanity Fair Oscars party in 2011. The world went absolutely wild that two of the biggest stars were an item. However, rumors of their romance were already running wild at this point.

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Toward the end of 2010, the couple was seen exiting an IHOP together. They were also spotted getting cozy together and kissing in St. Lucia over New Year's Eve. Even though they made their debut as a couple in February, it wouldn't be until May 2011 that they would confirm they were officially an item.

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PDA Alert

The two were young and in love, and they were not afraid to show it! Ever since their red carpet debut, Selena and Justin started displaying more and more PDA. Paparazzi snapped photos of the two vacationing together, holding hands around LA, and attending basketball games.

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They even shared a kiss at the 2011 Billboard Music Awards. Things were heating up between these two stars, and they went to great lengths to show how obsessed they were with each other. For one date, Bieber rented out Staples Center for a movie night with Selena. #RelationshipGoals.

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Broken Up

They were the hottest item, Hollywood's It couple. Everybody wanted a relationship like theirs. So, their fans were shocked when the news broke that Selena and Justin broke up in November 2012. The split came after almost two years of dating. Baby, baby, baby, no!

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A source close to the couple told PEOPLE magazine, "She broke up with him about a week ago. With them being apart so much it got complicated. She had some trust issues. It's not easy, but the relationship needed to end." Jelena was over, and it seemed like the world was falling apart.

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"All That Matters"

Justin wrote his hit song, All That Matters, dedicated to their breakup, and based on these lyrics, it is clear that his world was falling apart without Selena. He wrote, "You're all that matters to me, yeah, yeah./Ain't worried about nobody else/ If I ain't with you, I'm not myself/ You make me complete."

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Bieber revealed on the radio talk show Power 106 Los Angeles that he wrote this song based on his breakup. On the radio, he also said, "I love her [to] this day." It seems that the message got through to Gomez that she is all that matters to Bieber.

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Back Together

Only a few months after they announced their split, Selena was back together with Justin. Rumors were flying about their reunion when Bieber posted a series of throwback photos of the couple on his social media. We have a feeling that these photos mean a little more than just reminiscing on old times.

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Gomez was spotted halfway across the world from Los Angeles at one of Bieber's concerts in Oslo, Norway. An insider told PEOPLE, "They were holding hands, hugging and they kissed on the lips," during his concert in Norway. It was clear how much the young couple cared for each other.

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On and Off

Over the next couple of years, Selena and Justin went through many ups and downs together. They were constantly updating the press that they were broken up, but afterward, a photo of them together would be posted on social media. It was a rollercoaster of a relationship.

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The on-and-off-again couple couldn't seem to make up their minds about each other. The cycle continued for many years. During one instance of them being on, Bieber serenaded Gomz at the Beverly Hills hotel bar with his own hit song, Sorry, and The Temptations' My Girl

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Getting Candid

During an interview with Complex, Bieber got extremely candid about his relationship with Selena. He revealed, "When stuff would happen, I would lose my freakin' mind, and she would lose her mind, and we would fight so hard because we were so invested in each other."

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He continued to explain, "Love is a choice. Love is not a feeling. People have made it seem in movies that it's this fairy tale." He remarked that they had moved in together when he was too young, at only 18 years old. He called it "a marriage kind of thing."

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The Heart Wants

Selena Gomez revealed to Ryan Seacrest that she wrote the song, The Heart Wants What It Wants, about her relationship with Justin Bieber. Some of the lyrics are heartbreaking, including "There's a million reasons why I should give you up/ But the heart wants what it wants."

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When Seacrest asked about her relationship with Bieber at that time, Gomez responded, "I support him. I think I always will. I'm upset when he's upset, happy when he's happy." Throughout their careers, fans have speculated that many of their songs were written about each other.

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The Final Time

The couple was back on. They celebrated Valentine's Day together in 2018, but their rekindled romance wouldn't last long. Only a few weeks later, the couple decided to take a break on March 7, 2018. Unlike many times in the past, this time, they wouldn't be getting back together.

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A few months after their breakup, Bieber proposed to Hailey Baldwin. The two were married in a civil ceremony at a New York City courthouse on September 13, 2018. The era of Justin and Selena was officially over. So, what was in store next for Gomez?

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Gaining Closure

Over a year after their breakup, Gomez released the single, Lose You to Love Me. The Rare Beauty founder revealed that writing the song helped her recover from her tumultuous relationship with Bieber. In an interview with NPR, Gomez said, "It's not a hateful song..."

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She continued, "... it's a song that is saying - I had something beautiful and I would never deny that it wasn't that. It was very difficult and I'm happy it's over." Gomez also revealed she was a "victim to certain abuse" while with the Peaches singer.

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Falling for Zedd

During one of her many breakups with Bieber, Gomez found herself entangled with EDM artist and music producer Zedd. The news broke on their fling when they were photographed leaving a party together holding hands. Gomez basically confirmed their romance when she posted a selfie of the two of them.

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They released the song I Want You to Know together. However, things didn't last long. Zedd told Billboard, "Reporters were calling my parents. People were hacking my friends' phones... She is one of the most talked about people in the world, but I had no idea how much that would change my life."

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Looking for One Direction

Selena was also linked with One Direction singer Niall Horan. Around November 2015, the two were seen at dinner with friends. While that raised some suspicions, the two of them attending a birthday party and getting a little touchy started up romance rumors.

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Over the next few weeks, they were seen around town together and liking each other's posts on Instagram. Despite all of that, Gomez denied the rumors, saying, "Oh my god! No. I love him, I always have. He's amazing." The Same Old Love singer insisted she was only friends with Horan.

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More Relationship Rumors

There is no escaping the rumor mill with Selena Gomez's love life! During one of her off periods with Justin, Gomez was seen out and about with Samuel Krost, a close friend of model Gigi Hadid. Krost runs his own fashion company, Krost New York, and was involved with the Fyre Fest scandal. Yup, that one.

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Gomez and Krost were photographed vacationing together and holding hands. An observer told PEOPLE that the pair "seemed super happy together" as they were leaving a dinner date at the SLS Hotel. However, throughout the entire time, Gomez insisted that she was single.

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No Kiss and Tell

In 2016, Gomez collaborated with singer-songwriter Charlie Puth on the track We Don't Talk Anymore. Puth said in an interview, "I don't kiss and tell, but the only way a song like that can come across as real is if there's something else going on behind the scenes."

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He continued, "And that's what was happening. Very short-lived, very small, but very impactful. And it really messed me up." However, sources told PEOPLE that the pair "never dated." We're not sure who to believe, but we're guessing that Gomez and Puth probably don't talk anymore after this. 

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Having Fun on the Weekend

Although they met for the first time at the 2015 Victoria's Secret Fashion Show, it wasn't until 2017 that a romance sparked between The Weeknd and Gomez. Things got steamy quickly. Weeks after being seen together for the first time, they were spotted traveling around Italy.

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They continued to jet set around the world as Gomez joined her new beau on tour and visited his hometown of Toronto. The couple attended the Met Gala and Coachella together. The Weeknd also supported Gomez as she underwent a kidney transplant. Love was in the air.

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Separate Ways

Things seemed to be going well for the lovebirds. However, this relationship wasn't meant to be. In October 2017, after ten months of dating, Selena and The Weeknd went their separate ways. The time apart, as he was on tour and she was filming in New York, made things too difficult, per PEOPLE

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Luckily, there was no bad blood between these exes. In fact, it is quite the opposite of that. Gomez told Billboard, "We ended it as best friends, and it was genuinely about encouraging and caring [for each other], and that was pretty remarkable for me."

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Relationship rumors sparked once again when the Only Murders in the Building actress was seen out with Drew Taggart, one-half of The Chainsmokers. A source told Us Weekly that the two like to "go bowling and to the movies" together and were developing a "very casual and low-key" relationship.

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The source also said, "They are so affectionate and having a lot of fun together, Selena can hardly keep her hands off him." How's that for hot off the press?! But the Wolves singer reacted directly to the rumors, writing on her Insta stories, "I like being alone too much #iamsingle."

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Another Direction

Selena decided to take things in another direction this time around. In March 2023, rumors began to swirl that she was dating singer Zayn Malik. Per Entertainment Tonight, the two were seen kissing in New York City. The news even went viral on TikTok.

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A hostess posted a video describing how she saw Gomez and Malik walking "hand in hand" and "making out." An insider told Us Weekly, "She's free to see other people. However, Zayn would love to continue to see Selena and see where things go." We're crossing our fingers that Selena has finally found her knight in shining armor.

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Like a Love Song

Through the ups and downs, Gomez has remained true to herself. She has been through the highest of highs and some of the biggest public heartbreaks. Her fans have been there for her every step of the way, and so have her family and friends. It can't be easy being a celebrity and looking for love.

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Who will be the singer's Prince Charming? Only time will tell. Whoever the lucky guy will be, we're sure she will love him like a love song. Until then, we'll wait patiently for more updates about Selena's dating life and root for her along the way!

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