How to Set Healthy Boundaries for Yourself


| LAST UPDATE 09/20/2023

By Alyssa Williams
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Having healthy relationships with others is an important part of being human. But sometimes, it can be hard to draw the line when it feels like your friends, family, co-workers, or even significant others aren't respecting your boundaries. Here are a few important tips to keep in mind.

Whether it's because we fear rejection, are conflict-avoidant, or simply like to be "agreeable," the first thing many of us are guilty of is saying agreeing to things against our will. It's important to remember that you can say "no" to something that doesn't suit you without feeling guilty about it. In addition to that, many people that once they make a decision, they have to stick with it forever. But the truth is, even if you initially do say "yes," it's perfectly fine to change your mind - there's nothing wrong with prioritizing your own needs.

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Expressing our own needs and desires is another aspect of maintaining healthy relationships that several of us struggle with. Often, when people would rather keep the peace than express their feelings and opinions, their own needs end up being silenced. This also happens when we were taught to be more "easy going." But it's important to remember that there's a big difference between wanting to have everything your way and negotiating your preferences. Part of setting boundaries means allowing yourself to share what is most important to you with those who are closest to you. Of course, this doesn't mean you have to do so, but that you're allowed to when you need it. After all, you're the only one who knows your own needs best.

Lastly, but perhaps most importantly, you have the right to decide who stays in your life and who doesn't. Not everybody belongs in your inner circle, and those who have that privilege should be respectful of your time, energy, feelings, and values. Make sure those who are in your personal VIP section allow you to be who you are and speak your mind freely. So, when navigating relationships of any kind, don't be afraid to set proper boundaries and put yourself first!

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